The Real Reason I Moved to Wyoming

Did I ever tell to you about my cult I want to start? I am not sure if you knew or picked up that I am polyamorous. If you don’t know this about me then I probably just met you or you probably haven’t lived around me to sit and get into the conversation of since 2012. For those of you not sure what that is, here is a Wiki definition: Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. 

Origins of Erica entering such a sin dates back when I started this blog September 2012. If you remember I left the Christian church and pronounced myself an Atheist, which I still proudly claim. During the time I was born again again, I came into the realm of self-awareness and reevaluating all aspects of my life. It was like a second chance to start over since that creepy guy in the sky that watched me masturbate and feel bad about such urges governed my entire life. I noticed in my romantic relationships felt shady as I either cheated or wanted at some point to cheat on my boyfriends. They were all great guys but I was always attracted to other men and found myself liking being desired by them even though I was in a mutually committed relationship. Diving more into this, I asked myself why have I always been like this? It almost felt natural and something that I would never be able to entirely let go of. I hated being told “no” and it was like abstinence programs and the more they say no then the more I want to rebel. If I was monogamous and told I couldn’t look and it wasn’t natural to be attracted then that totally sucked and wasn’t going to fly. 

I ended up meeting a pretty cute guy in Portland during my online dating frenzy and we really hit it off. Things were going great for a few weeks but he was just going through a divorce and wasn’t ready for anything serious. We talked a little about books and one in particular came about called “Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships.” This book was a huge eye-opener and answered a lot of questions on how I felt “trapped” in my previous relationships and that it’s part of my natural biology to take over these urges and attractions. They can all be facilitated and nurtured when you are self-aware and can communicate them to a partner or potential partner. I walked away with a deeper understanding of humanity and came to conclude I was interested yet didn’t really know where to begin. So as this gentleman suggested this reading we also parted ways and I was a little sad but in the end completely understood he needed time to move on and finalize this divorce. 

A couple months went by and I ran into him downtown one afternoon, happy to see him and still very much attracted to him we went for cocktails around the NW neighborhood where he found a new apartment and sold him and the ex’s house. After a few drinks I ended up back at his place and the next morning I notice there are additional women’s clothing and he begins to give me the inclination that he’s been seeing someone. I was a little upset at the fact he broke it off with me to pursue singlehood but got into a serious relationships just after we called it. She happened to be out of town and I asked if he was going to tell her and he said, of course, she already knows about you and it’s ok. Completely weirded out I left and went on with my life thinking he was a little crazy and I didn’t want to involve myself in any drama.

A couple more months went by and we really didn’t talk much but many a text of “hey” here and there. Lo and behold I run into him again and he informed me that he just moved into a bigger apartment and I should come check it out and have dinner. I show up and didn’t realize not only was the girlfriend there but they moved in together at this place. Luckily she happened to be quite charming, welcoming and it was weird how not weird it was. She completely knew I was into her man and cool with it. It was the most freeing thing to experience that I could be open about my feelings and they were acknowledged and respected. This dude and me started dating again but this time it was very open in communication and understanding, it felt natural and it was fun. After a while I changed my OkCupid dating profile to meet more people like this and discovered a whole new community of open relationships. They were so much better in talking openly about their feelings, their wants, and were completely comfortable with their lives. After this experience of dating men in open marriages and relationships I couldn’t go back to monogamy. 

As I was moving onto #EricasRevolution I wanted to carry this with me, like I said I couldn’t go back. I luckily met a man in Lake Tahoe that was open to trying. He bought books to educate himself and we could as a couple redefine what worked and what didn’t. It was nice to be so flexible with someone where we could make our own rules and when I would push the boundaries, he was able to express his concern and we went back to the drawing board to figure what worked best for us, and not concerned what society thought the rules were.

Today I continue to be open; I wasn’t always living with this theory in mind. People change and I am open to changing again, but for now I am content on being polyamorous…until recently.

As I do more research on open relationships, I came across the term “polyandry.” Polyandry is the practice of one woman taking two or more husbands. The custom evolved in human cultures where resources, particularly land and food, were scarce, and/or where women were allowed to own property or ancestral titles of rank. While this isn’t entirely new, it hasn’t really been around in my godly world.

While I truly believe monogamy is not natural, there are some exceptions that I have encountered. Weird people like my sister, my coworker, Rachel, my good friends that I married Michelle and Kent that just make sense, it wouldn’t really appeal to them to be in open relationships and it’s very rare for couples to make sense.

With this said, I recently had the opportunity to visit and stay with my good friends Kent and Michelle. I had the privilege of officiating their wedding a couple years ago. The best part of their wedding was the preparation in their wedding vows, I truly enjoyed getting them pumped to spend the rest of their lives together. I even offered but they declined my two for one deal. Anyway during my visit we were catching up and I think every married person wants an insight on my crazy dating life so as I was sharing my cult idea. Michelle and Kent have their own business, Michelle designs and children’s clothes by hand and Kent “runs the business.” During my sharing we really got carried away with this concept of my cult.

I would really like to take on polyandry but also extend this offer to men as well as other various types of persons to be in open relationships. These types of relationships are based on clear and open communication, team building, self-awareness and promote a healthy lifestyle. We are known as the “More-Man.” As I was pitching my cult to my friends Michelle and Kent, Kent mentioned land is fairly cheap in Wyoming. We concluded the best option was to purchase a few acres and turn my cult into a real live “Dude Ranch.” Michelle and I have a mutual friend that grew up in a polygamous family in Utah. The main guy would ride around on a four-wheeler around the complex. The thought of a sustainable Dude Ranch would have to substitute the wheeler for two beefy husbands to carry me on their shoulders as we inspect the Ranch.

So here I am in the middle of Wyoming checking out cheap land, horses, best soils for farming, all for a sustainable Dude Ranch for the More-Man Brother Husbands.

The More-Man Brother Husbands Dude Ranch, the more the merrier